by: Amaris Hinto
I am new to the sex arena.
I gave my virginity to my boyfriend of nearly 2 years now, and what a ride. The first time was interesting. Being no stranger to masturbation — therapist-sanctioned no less — I knew what an orgasm was, where my clitoris was (for the most part) and what I had to do to find release. However, it was all rather mechanical. Something I did to relieve stress, to learn about my body and just to figure out the general mechanics of the female form.
So, after being with my boyfriend for 8 months, I decided I wanted to be rid of the dreaded “v-card.”
In an air of anti-romance, we went back to my apartment after the 2011 Super Bowl. We purchased ribbed condoms (note: not good for your first time) and the deed commenced.
It wasn’t rough. It wasn’t romantic. It was an act. Seeing as he and I weren’t “official” at the time, I just wanted to see what sex was like with someone I trusted. Weird, I know, but it worked and it was fun. To match rhythms, breaths, tastes and speeds. He was gentle, I was relaxed and comfortable. It was an ideal situation. We fell asleep after several bouts of surprisingly fulfilling and invigorating love-making.
Why am I giving you this glimpse into my personal life? Because I want it to be known that sex can be comforting, healthy and just fun. Ideally, I wanted to wait for marriage. It’s how I was raised. I still believe in that traditional train of thought, but I know it’s very idealistic. If nothing else, I will raise my children to at least wait until they know without a shadow of a doubt that they are in love (and adults).
My boyfriend and I try to make love/have sex at least once a week, if schedules and life allow. It keeps us in sync and just allows us to have fun. Also, it eases the effects of my menstrual cramps, and so the week or so leading up to my time of the month, I take advantage of my partner as often as our bodies will allow. It shortens the duration of my period and eases my cramps. It is brilliant, way better than any pain medication on the market.
I truly think that less partners are definitely the way to go. Mentally, physically and spiritually. Every time is an adventure for me, every time allows my partner and I to discover our respective bodies and minds. Don’t get me wrong. There are times that neither of us are in the mood, when we may make use of a sex toy or two — I also work part time as a consultant for Pure Romance — both for solo time and time together.
Sex is a great thing we utilized properly. So happy sexing everyone!
Amaris Hinton is a 25-year-old bookseller who resides in Cincinnati, OH. She graduated from Columbia College Chicago with a BA of the Arts, concentrating on Film and Video. Her hobbies include knitting, reading, writing and spending time with her family. She also has a deep appreciation for gingers. That and cupcakes. Yeah.